السبت، 23 نوفمبر 2013

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Attraction psychology

Culture and attractivity

Culture and attractivity

Does a culture affect attractiveness?
Are there universal standards for beauty or is there a variation in such standards across different cultures??
Long ago in cultures where food was scarce heavy women were regarded as more attractive than slim ones. According to the culture at that time being heavy meant that the women was wealthy enough to buy the scare food. Later on when food became widely available and people started associating obesity with unhealthiness slim women became more attractive.
Definitely the culture affects attractiveness in a way or another. Long ago a tan was completely unattractive as it usually indicated that the person had to work outdoors most of the time and that was not rich enough to work in an office. These days the opposite is true because of the change in culture. Nowadays a tan usually indicates that the person is wealthy enough to think about getting tanned and to travel to somewhere that can help him get tanned.

Culture affects attractivity

There is no doubt that culture affects perceived attractiveness but the important question is, is there a universal culture that makes beauty standards the same all over the world?
Research has shown that even if there are slight variations in preferences among people still there are general beauty standards that everyone agrees upon across all cultures.
Because of globalization, the wide use of the internet and the advancement in the telecommunications industry the western culture has managed to promote its beauty standards to the whole world and to almost every culture.
Isolated tribes that have their own culture and that are not exposed to any other cultures still have their own unique beauty standards and their unique definition for attractiveness. This shows that if each culture was isolated from the others then attractiveness measures would have been completely different from a culture to another.

 Attractivity preferences and culture

Culture isn't the only thing that determines attractiveness because it was found that each person has his own attractiveness standards that he learned as a result of his past experiences.
For example if a person lives in a culture that taught him that slim women are attractive then this person might get attracted to a slim women but in the same time he will add his own preferences in order to be able to choose from the many slim women he knows.
While a big part of attraction is biological (for example men are attracted to women who have hour glass body shape since ancient times) still the culture can play a role in tweaking these attractiveness standards.

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Do likes really attract

Do likes really attract

Some people claim that likes attract each other and they support their claims by lots of studies that were carried out that showed that people become attracted to those who are similar to them.
Others say that opposites attract and that a person is usually attracted to the one who has the traits that he lacks.
Which opinion is correct? and how to use such information to make someone fall in love with you?
In fact, both are correct, let me explain how.

Both are right

Any person would like to eat food that looks familiar, after all most people won't feel comfortable about eating something that looks strange and the same happens to relationships. People get attracted to those who are similar to them because they feel comfortable around them.
But just as people are attracted to those who have similar good traits they are also attracted to those who have the opposite traits of the ones they dislike about themselves.
An intelligent good looking woman who is shy might become attracted to an intelligent (similar) handsome (similar) and confident guy (opposite trait).
So people become attracted to good traits that are similar to the ones that they posses and become attracted to the opposites of their bad traits.

How to make someone love you?

In my book How to make someone fall in love with you i said If you want to attract someone then you must display similar traits to the one he likes about himself and opposite traits to the ones he dislikes about himself.
If for example a girl is in love with her father then resembling her father's behavior would give you a cutting edge when trying to make her love you but if she hates her father then that would have exactly the opposite effect!!
So its not about being similar or being different but its about understanding your target then providing the right mixture of similarity and differences based upon his likes and dislikes.

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How to attract a woman into your world

How to attract a woman into your world

If the three best friends of a girl believed that a guy is desirable then certainly the girl will eventually acquire the same beliefs, not because the guy is desirable but because she thought that everyone likes him.
When trying to attract someone lots of people in a wrong way assume that they should try to only impress the person himself while in fact, its extremely important to impress the people surrounding that person too so that you can manipulate his world.

Each one of us lives in a different world

Each one of us has main characters in his own world that he spends the most time with. The beliefs a person builds about life doesn't usually need to be true as long as they can perfectly describe what's going on in his little world.
I previously said that research has shown that if members of the opposite gender believed that someone is desirable then a bystander of the same sex will develop the same belief about the person.
In short one of the keys to attract a woman to your life is to program the minds of the key people in his life whenever possible because that certainly will affect his beliefs about you.

How to attract woman to you?

In order to attract someone you first need to capture his attention. Showing the person that you posses good traits that he lacks, showing him that you are superior to him or being different in any other way can help you attract the attention.
Once attention is attracted you can work on intensifying this attraction by displaying your good traits one by one.
As soon as attraction reaches a certain level you should then move on to the final step which is turning this attraction into obsession. 
By sending the person mixed signals that confuses him like showering him with attention one day and ignoring him the other day the person will start to become obsessed with you.
At this point you can confidently say that you managed to attract his attention.

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How to attract a woman who do not want you

How to attract a woman who do not want

Whenever someone thinks about something a lot he starts to become attached to it and he thinks about it even more. Large companies understand this fact and that's why they keep bombarding you with ads all the time.
The subconscious mind absorbs new beliefs by repetition and if something pleasant was repeated enough times the person will become attached to it.
So what does this has to do with attracting someone who is not interested in you?
actually if you managed to let someone think about you more often you will be only few steps away from making him fall in love with you even if he wasn't interested in you at all.
Love is nothing more than the state of being obsessed with someone and thinking about him a lot. If you want to attract someone who is not interested in you then you must first learn how to let him think about you more often.

Attracting someone who is not interested means occupying his thoughts

Don't confuse attraction with attracting attention. Its completely easy to attract someone's attention for few moments by doing anything extraordinary or even stupid but after he returns home he wont remember you anymore.
Successful attraction happens when you attract attention in such a way that the person thinks about you even after you leave.
The process of attraction starts by attracting the attention of the target, but not any kind of attention, you want to show him that you have qualities that he is desperately in need of. In such a case even if that person wasn't interested in you he will become attracted to you.
Every person in this world longs for certain traits and would become attracted to anybody who posses them. For example some women are attracted to ambitious men because its a trait that shows that this man might become somebody one day, some men are attracted to women who are demanded by other men because it makes them believe that they have high status. Now the reason someone might not be interested in you is that you didn't show him that you have these traits he is in need of.
Before you try to attract someone's attention try to first collect information about him and to find out the things that would impress him the most.
Does self confidence impress him?
Will perceived popularity impress him?
Can kindness impress her?
Will will power impress her?

What makes women attracted to men

what attracts women to a man

Does a tall man have an advantage over a short man?
Do unattractive men have got good chances in appealing to attractive women?
What really attracts women?
I am always against generalizations because ,as we all know, for every rule there are exceptions especially with controversial topics such as attractiveness, however, Recent researchers have managed to determine to a great extent the preference of the majority of women and the traits they look for in a man.
In this article i will tell you what attracts women to a man according to latest research findings (and of course there are exceptions).

What makes a man look attractive to woman

  • The difference between Good looking and attractive: Most people confuse the term "good looking" with the word "attractive", good looking means that the person has attractive physical features while attractive in general means that the overall traits and qualities of that person makes him attractive. Women are attracted to attractive men not just good looking ones.
  • Women care less about looks than men do: Most men give looks a very high priority to the extent that it could be the basis for their decision in some cases. While women do care about looks they don't give it as much importance as men do. Most Women focus more on the personality traits and the qualities of a man
  • Protection: In my book How to make someone fall in love with you i said that most women need a man who can protect them, protect their children and ensure the safety of the family this results in letting most women become attracted to confident, charismatic, resourceful, rich, strong, brave and ambitious men. Each of these traits makes a woman feel more secure and so they make the man appear more attractive
  • Well built and healthy men attract women: Men who are tall, well built, with broad shoulders and who have a healthy look are considered much more attractive to women than ordinary men
  • Social proof and status: A research has shown that women are more attracted to men who managed to attract other attractive females. Popularity, high status and being surrounded by fans gives any man a strong advantage against other men.